Category divorce recovery

How to Find Your Joy by Changing Your Story

We all have a story, how we perceive our lives, our experiences. It is what you tell others about your life. It is how you see your life. It’s your angle or “take” on how things have played out for you.

Quote against misty seashore - It's an inside job to learn about forgiving. It's an inside job to hang on to the joy of living.

How to Find Your Joy Through Forgiveness

I know that when it comes to personal and deep heartfelt hurt from those we expect better it is extremely difficult to forgive.

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3 Foolproof Tips for Parents After Divorce

  Do Not Put Children in the Middle After Divorce One minute audio:   After a divorce or split up parents are often tempted to triangulate the relationship with their Ex. Children are put in a terrible position of being stretched between parents. Triangulation is not geometry. It is rather a situation in which one […]

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Transitions Challenge Us to Take a Step Upward

Look on every exit as being an entrance somewhere else.   – Tom Stoppard Looking at fall leaves in New England is a joy. Colors are vivid and varied and cover the hillsides. The underside of an autumn maple leaf is subtle, yet beautiful. I like the color, but I’ve never before looked at the flip […]

How to Live Courageously

Live Your Life Courageously This review of my book meant a lot to me because my personal life goal is to encourage and empower women. If my own experiences and life lessons can do that, I’m thrilled. This book is simple and an easy read. It is also loaded with lessons learned that can apply […]

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12 Steps for Single Moms

12 Steps Adapted for Single Moms Gail Cawley Showalter I admit that I do not have control over the difficult people in my life and I cannot manage all my responsibilities alone. My life has become crazy, out of control. I do believe that a Power greater than myself can and will bring clarity out […]

Are You Heard?

Do You Speak so You are Heard? This poem in Janet Davis‘ book, My Own Worst Enemy, says so much to me. I hope it will touch you as well. Finding Her Here Jayne Relaford Brown I am becoming the woman I’ve wanted, grey at the temples, soft body, delighted, cracked up by life with a […]

Do You Feel Pain?

How do you feel your pain? We don’t all experience pain in the same way. Some carry a loss for years, while others seem to get over a loss or disappointment rather quickly. Related post: Brief video about grieving a loss I’ve experienced grief on many levels. Basically grief is the heartache of having to accept the […]

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How to Handle “Alone”

Spend Some Time Alone   Related post: Creativity in Solitude You may have noticed by now that I say a lot about being alone, solitude, or simply being by yourself. There is a good reason for this-no there are many good reasons for this. I’ve had forced time spend alone and I’ve learned the true […]

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4 Keys to Perseverance

Believe & Persevere my article in Single Matters online magazine Believe and persevere are two words that are loaded with promise for the fruitful future. Without believing, you won’t think you can persevere. And without persevering, you won’t have the fruit of what you believe. Read more. . . Gail raised three children as a single mother before she […]