Accepting Loss Can Bring Peace

from The Mystic Path to Cosmic Power by Vernon Howard

When a woman reaches a certain level of insight, she takes an entirely different view of her unhappiness. She no longer resists or resents it. She understands its value. She sees that a shock or crisis is a message telling her that in some way she is living out of harmony with her original nature. Therefore, although shocked, she studies what happened. As her enlightenment grows, she is less and less shocked and more and more at peace.

My experience of going through a divorce was, I thought, unique. If anyone said it was a “typical” situation, I was annoyed. It certainly wasn’t typical for me. Nor was it typical for my children. We never thought our marriage would fail. The shock of it took years to get over. I resisted acceptance of the pain with every fiber of my being. I didn’t want to be “Divorced.” It was only after I became proactive and took ownership of my life that I came to understand the meaning of the above words.

I took three significant steps. You may want to try them:

1. Move -Move out of your comfort zone. I began attending a church that had a large Christian singles group. I met with new friends on the Friday evenings when my children were with their dad. I made plans.
2. Observe the actions of others. Learn by being an observer. This will help you as you do the autopsy on your previous relationship.
3. Heed warning signs. Take care during this period of life. You may find yourself in vulnerable situations. Be forewarned. Be smart.
4. Mind your true self. Listen to the voice within. Trust your gut, as they say. The Spirit will guide you.

Times of trial can bring an overcoming sense of peace. A peace that passes all human understanding.

I raised three children as a single mother before I remarried. I have experienced the potholes, pests, and perils of being the single head-of-household. As an educator in regular and special education for twenty years I know a great deal about child development and how to handle kids. I am the founder of SMORE for Women, a nonprofit whose goal is Single Moms, Overjoyed, Rejuvenated, and Empowered. I’m also a Certified Professional Coach and my stories have been published in several Christian books and magazines. My book, Living Learning Loving is available on Amazon.