Being Alone Need Not Be Lonely

Most women feel alone from time to time. Single moms often feel lonely. It’s not the dream life. Difficulties and disappointments may be daily events. There are, however, some gems that can be polished when we are alone.

I love the quote from Henrietta Mears, “God never put anyone in a place too small to grow.” Growth is what life is about. If you haven’t noticed look at your children. Their physical growth is a constant. Aren’t you always buying new shoes and jeans?  Of course, I’m speaking of spiritual growth here. As all grown-up people we should ask ourselves how have we grown lately? Am I the same person I was a year ago? What have I learned? How would others say I was different? It is an uphill struggle to be sure.

I used to wonder why people wanted to climb mountains especially considering all the dangers involved. Now I can see it as overcoming a great challenge or obstacle. Isn’t that what we do daily? Aren’t you overcoming challenges and obstacles, sometimes wondering what your next step will be?

When we are alone it seems as if even God has forsaken us. We fail to realize, as Oswald Chambers put it, “God will keep narrowing us in until He gets us alone.” In those times He reveals to us why He needs our attention. If we want to truly hear God, we must be quiet and still. Oswald Chambers also said,

“When God gets us alone by affliction, heartbreak, or temptation, by disappointment, sickness, or by thwarted affection, by a broken friendship, or by a new friendship-when He gets us absolutely alone, and we are dumbfounded, and cannot ask one question, then He begins to expound.”

Aloneness is not all bad. It can be a time for great change and insight into your life.

We all climb mountains step-by-step reaching for God’s hand to pull us upward. As we struggle over life’s obstacles we tend to complain as if we think all our roads should be smooth. Bruce Wilkinson stated in Beyond Jabez, “But take note:  The hand of God comes consistently into play only for those who climb mountains.”

Being alone can be an opportunity to reach out to new experiences. Wilkinson goes on to say, “Unfortunately, many people have never come to this, because they’ve never ventured beyond where they feel safe. These people will seldom, if ever, see God working powerfully in their lives.”

Don’t you want to see God working powerfully in your life?

Venture out. Climb that mountain.

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I hold a degree from Lamar University in Speech and a Master’s from the University of Texas. I was an educator in regular and special education for twenty years, finishing my professional career as a Braille teacher. I am a Certified Professional Coach with Fowler International Academy.

I married Sam after raising three children as a single mother.

In 2007 I founded SMORE for Women. SMORE is a nonprofit whose goal is Single Moms, Overjoyed, Rejuvenated, & Empowered. My stories have been published in several Christian books and magazines. My book, Living Learning Loving, Insights and Encouragement on the Path of Motherhood is available for purchase on Amazon.