10 Ways to Create a Joy-Filled Christmas

Mom with her son and daughter with Christmas gifts

Christmas is Coming 

The approaching Christmas holiday can cause stress for single parents. I remember standing in the check out line at Toys R Us a few days before the first Christmas after the divorce. I had to wait until I received my December paycheck before I could buy my three kids’ presents. Most single parents struggle to provide Christmas for their children. These four simple steps can make a difference.

  • Plan ahead, way ahead. If you haven’t joined a Christmas Club at your bank, get the process started for 2015.
  • Discuss with each child what his/her desires are. Use the catalogs and/or newspaper ads.
  • See which stores have layaway plans. This way you can avoid the crowds and take care of Christmas in advance.
  • If you have to charge Christmas, schedule the payments to pay it off as quickly as possible.

Children take on the attitude of the parent. If you are enthusiastic they will catch your spirit.

  • Talk with your children about opportunities for giving to others during the holidays.
  • Make it a family activity to bake and decorate cookies for grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers, etc.
  • Use a calendar to plan family events and be enthusiastic about each one.
  • Make simple crafts and decorations. Use Pinterest.
  • Start your own family traditions. Use Google.
  • Let your children know what to expect. There will be fewer disappointments that way.

A mother who was single for seven years raising two daughters told me, “You must keep your focus.” She said she repeatedly taught her girls the difference between needing and wanting. She never barked, “You don’t needthat.” Rather she sat down with them and explained, really explained, the difference between wanting and needing. While this mom worked long hours her children were able to stay with relatives. Her daughters, now in their late teens, know and value the difference between wanting and needing. During the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays they do community service and giving back has become a family tradition. Though it was extremely difficult at times her determination paid off because she maintained focused self-discipline. Christmas for most single parents takes lots of self-discipline especially if you are trying to make up for the absence of the other spouse.

It is possible to keep Christmas simple, reasonable, and meaningful. Most importantly keep Christ the center of your Christmas.


Gail headshotI raised three children as a single mother before I remarried. I have experienced the potholes, pests, and perils of being the single head-of-household. As an educator in regular and special education for twenty years I know a great deal about child development and how to handle kids. I am the founder of SMORE for Women, a nonprofit whose goal is Single Moms, Overjoyed, Rejuvenated, and Empowered. I’m also a Certified Professional Coach and my stories have been published in several Christian books and magazines. My book, Living Learning Loving is available on Amazon.



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