How to Find Meaning
Do you feel that your life has meaning? I hope so. You see, I think every life has meaning, though the meaning varies greatly from person to person. I also believe that it is futile to figure it all out. People seem to like assigning events to God and giving him or her a pass on others. One of my favorite books, Man’s Search for Meaning, written by Viktor E. Frankl, chronicles his experiences as an Auschwitz concentration camp inmate. I remember that the one thing that seemed to help his fellow inmates survive was having a meaning for their existence. The ones who had a reason to live came nearer staying alive.
When I coach women we set goals and establish plans to achieve them. However, just succeeding must not be the goal. A life with meaning needs work that matches your personal desires and gifts. It is never just about success.
Frankl states in the book,
“Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run—in the long-run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it”
I cannot possibly state it any better. Dedication to a cause greater than oneself solves many of our personal issues. I’ve tested it multiple times over many years.
Occasionally life coaching will assist and guide a person to get on the track that leads to dedication to a cause and personal satisfaction follows.
Gail holds a degree from Lamar University in Speech and a Master’s from the University of Texas. She was an educator in regular and special education for twenty years, finishing her professional career as a Braille teacher. She is a Certified Professional Coach with Fowler International Academy. She married Sam after raising three children as a single mother. In 2007 She founded SMORE for Women. SMORE is a nonprofit association whose goal is Single Moms, Overjoyed, Rejuvenated, & Empowered. Her stories have been published in several Christian books and magazines. Her book, Living Learning Loving, published in July 2015, is available for purchase on CreateSpace, Amazon, or Barnes & Noble online.