Category Setting Boundaries

How Boundaries Can Improve Your Life

 We only know our own family culture. It is our normal. When we grow up and establish another home, we can run into trouble.

What is Detachment?

Detachment never takes away anything beneficial; only the harmful. – Vernon Howard

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A Thought from The Tough Old Bird

Yes, it’s that same old topic from the same Old Bird. You see I see it every where I turn. We are taught to be so polite that we fail to respect ourselves.

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3 Needs for Genuine Lasting Love

Courage is required for a genuine and lasting love relationship. You make yourself vulnerable. You open yourself and share your secrets.It takes time to know if a person respects you. You will be more likely to do this if you first respect yourself. Out of self-respect you can create a respectful relationship.

People Pleaser Reminder: Someone else's thoughts and desires do not require a change in your own beliefs or another item on your to-do list.

How to Know if You Are a People Pleaser

Are You a People Pleaser? You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically-to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside. – Stephen Covey Setting priorities means setting boundaries. Yes, that same old subject again—boundaries. I want […]

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12 Steps for Single Moms

12 Steps Adapted for Single Moms Gail Cawley Showalter I admit that I do not have control over the difficult people in my life and I cannot manage all my responsibilities alone. My life has become crazy, out of control. I do believe that a Power greater than myself can and will bring clarity out […]

How to Have a Strategy for Your Life

Have a Strategic Plan Related Posts – Difficult People, Why? (audio), Change Your Life Boundaries Are Strategic Businesses have strategic plans. A strategic plan is a deliberate and intentional plan for each step of a business or endeavor. I find that women are more likely to go through life letting things happen to them than […]

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Setting Boundaries with Difficult People

Dealing with Difficult People When our granddaughter, Kaylin, was three, our daughter, her mom, had gotten into the habit of describing dirty or unpleasant items as nasty. “Ouh, That’s naaasteee,” she would say. One day as they entered the public ladies’ room in a local discount store several Gothic girls were leaving. One held the […]

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Why Boundaries Make a Difference

Set Boundaries for Personal Emotional Health The topic of boundaries keeps coming up with the women I coach. I wonder if that is because we aren’t taught as little girls about our right to establish boundaries. Some of us may not have even been taught that we should establish boundaries for our own personal safety. […]

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Change Your Life by Setting Boundaries

Boundaries Are for Your Good What if I told you – this one topic can change your life forever? Boundaries are the source of many of the difficulties that I notice when I talk with single mothers. Difficulties often start in childhood. Abuse as a child crosses the most personal of boundaries – skin. The […]