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How to Set Personal Boundaries

When I decided to teach Boundaries in our Sunday class at Calder Baptist Church I thought we would cover the material in a few months. A year and a half later we were still on the subject. I’ve found that women, especially divorced and single mothers, have serious issues with boundaries.

How Boundaries Can Improve Your Life

 We only know our own family culture. It is our normal. When we grow up and establish another home, we can run into trouble.

What is Detachment?

Detachment never takes away anything beneficial; only the harmful. – Vernon Howard

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A Thought from The Tough Old Bird

Yes, it’s that same old topic from the same Old Bird. You see I see it every where I turn. We are taught to be so polite that we fail to respect ourselves.

People Pleaser Reminder: Someone else's thoughts and desires do not require a change in your own beliefs or another item on your to-do list.

How to Know if You Are a People Pleaser

Are You a People Pleaser? You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically-to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside. – Stephen Covey Setting priorities means setting boundaries. Yes, that same old subject again—boundaries. I want […]

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Change Your Life by Setting Boundaries

Boundaries Are for Your Good What if I told you – this one topic can change your life forever? Boundaries are the source of many of the difficulties that I notice when I talk with single mothers. Difficulties often start in childhood. Abuse as a child crosses the most personal of boundaries – skin. The […]

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Why You Need Boundaries

Healthy Boundaries Keep Your Heart Safe Related posts – “Expect Resistance”, “Living with Boundaries” Chapter 2 video, Radio Spot, For some women difficulty with boundaries began in childhood. Others may suffer with weak boundaries as a result of troublesome relationships. Child Abuse Our first/earliest boundary is our skin. It is our largest organ and protects […]

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12 Chapters with Stories for Men as well as Mothers

Living Learning Loving Lessons & Encouragement on the Path of Motherhood by Gail Cawley Showalter An Amazon review from a male reader: As a middle-aged male engineer fond of biography and military history, I picked up this little gem when my wife bought it for a single mom friend of ours. In truth, I was […]

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Single Moms May Need a Life Coach

For contact information CLICK HERE A commitment is required for Life Coaching to succeed. That is why I ask that you commit to at least three months, with two session per month. We can have an actual meeting, a phone or Skype meeting. So it doesn’t matter where you live. My fees are extremely reasonable because […]

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New Small Group Study for Women

Small Group Study for Women Living Learning Loving, Lessons and Insights on the Path of Motherhood Videos with Gail introducing each chapter now available on her website Gail raised three children as a single mother before she remarried. She has experienced the potholes, pests, and perils of being the single head-of-household. As an educator in […]