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What is Detachment?

May 4, 2018 · by · in boundaries are not walls to keep people out, boundary setting, Detaching, Gail Cawley Showalter, Setting Boundaries, Single Mothers · 1 Comment

Detachment never takes away anything beneficial; only the harmful. – Vernon Howard

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A Thought from The Tough Old Bird

April 2, 2017 · by · in boundaries are not walls to keep people out, Setting Boundaries, Single Mothers, the tough old bird with a soft spot for single moms · 4 Comments

Yes, it’s that same old topic from the same Old Bird. You see I see it every where I turn. We are taught to be so polite that we fail to respect ourselves.

People Pleaser Reminder: Someone else's thoughts and desires do not require a change in your own beliefs or another item on your to-do list.

How to Know if You Are a People Pleaser

November 4, 2016 · by · in boundaries are not walls to keep people out, developing your strengths, empowerment, Gail Cawley Showalter, overcoming difficulties, Setting Boundaries, Single Mothers · 1 Comment

Are You a People Pleaser? You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically-to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside. – Stephen Covey Setting priorities means setting boundaries. Yes, that same old subject again—boundaries. I want […]

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Change Your Life by Setting Boundaries

July 28, 2016 · by · in boundaries are not walls to keep people out, courageous living, Setting Boundaries, Single Mothers · 1 Comment

Boundaries Are for Your Good What if I told you – this one topic can change your life forever? Boundaries are the source of many of the difficulties that I notice when I talk with single mothers. Difficulties often start in childhood. Abuse as a child crosses the most personal of boundaries – skin. The […]

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Why You Need Boundaries

June 27, 2016 · by · in accepting yourself, Book for single moms, boundaries are not walls to keep people out, Gail Cawley Showalter, Lessons of Insight and Encouragement on the path of motherhood, Living Learning Loving, Setting Boundaries, Single Mothers · Leave a comment

Healthy Boundaries Keep Your Heart Safe Related posts – “Expect Resistance”, “Living with Boundaries” Chapter 2 video, Radio Spot, For some women difficulty with boundaries began in childhood. Others may suffer with weak boundaries as a result of troublesome relationships. Child Abuse Our first/earliest boundary is our skin. It is our largest organ and protects […]

12 Chapters with Stories for Men as well as Mothers

April 26, 2016 · by · in accepting loss, accepting solitude, accepting yourself, Archer's Press, Author, Bonding with Family Fun, Book for single moms, book for single mothers, boundaries are not walls to keep people out, coping with loneliness, courageous living, developing your strengths, divorce recovery, divorce recovery for the kids, facing change, Gail Cawley Showalter, Grieving a Loss, Growing spiritually, how do I get out of this hell?, how do I make it through a divorce, identify your strengths, learning during solitude, learning during time alone, learning from blind students, Learning to Value Morality, lessons of insight and encouragement, Lessons of Insight and Encouragement on the path of motherhood, Living Learning Loving, Living with Grief, Loving the Growth, making family fun, ministering to single moms, ministry guide for single moms, morals, new beginnings, new starts, parenting alone, parenting single, parents without partners, Personality Predicaments, personality profiles, Prayer is aligning our will with God's, Setting Boundaries, single mom raising kids, Single Mothers, SMORE for Women, spiritual growth, study for small groups, study guide for single moms, teaching children with visual Impairments, the tough old bird with a soft spot for single moms, value of solitude, valuing morality · Leave a comment

Living Learning Loving Lessons & Encouragement on the Path of Motherhood by Gail Cawley Showalter An Amazon review from a male reader: As a middle-aged male engineer fond of biography and military history, I picked up this little gem when my wife bought it for a single mom friend of ours. In truth, I was […]

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Single Moms May Need a Life Coach

April 11, 2016 · by · in Accepting change, accepting yourself, boundaries are not walls to keep people out, budgeting as a single mom, coping with loss of a lover, courageous living, death of a marriage, developing your strengths, divorce recovery, facing change, Gail Cawley Showalter, Life Coach, overcoming difficulties, Single Mothers · Leave a comment

For contact information CLICK HERE A commitment is required for Life Coaching to succeed. That is why I ask that you commit to at least three months, with two session per month. We can have an actual meeting, a phone or Skype meeting. So it doesn’t matter where you live. My fees are extremely reasonable because […]

New Small Group Study for Women

January 27, 2016 · by · in accepting solitude, accepting yourself, Archer's Press, Author, Bonding with Family Fun, Book for single moms, book for single mothers, boundaries are not walls to keep people out, budgeting as a single mom, Christian small groups for single moms, Church Leaders, courageous living, Dating Do's, dealing with life as single parent, death of a marriage, developing your strengths, Divorce, divorce recovery, finances a single mom, Gail Cawley Showalter, going to school as single mother, Grieving a Loss, how do I make it through a divorce, identify your strengths, learning during time alone, learning from blind students, Learning to Value Morality, lessons of insight and encouragement, Lessons of Insight and Encouragement on the path of motherhood, Living Learning Loving, Living with Grief, living with solitude, lonely, Loving the Growth, making family fun, making the most with what you have, ministry guide for single moms, needing versus wanting, Personality Predicaments, personality profiles, Prayer is aligning our will with God's, raising Godly children, returning to college, Setting Boundaries, Single Matters, single mom study guide, Single Mothers, study for small groups, study guide for single moms, the tough old bird with a soft spot for single moms, value of solitude · Leave a comment

Small Group Study for Women Living Learning Loving, Lessons and Insights on the Path of Motherhood Videos with Gail introducing each chapter now available on her website Gail raised three children as a single mother before she remarried. She has experienced the potholes, pests, and perils of being the single head-of-household. As an educator in […]

Plans for Women in 2016

December 31, 2015 · by · in Accepting change, accepting loss, accepting solitude, accepting yourself, Archer's Press, Bonding with Family Fun, Book for single moms, book for single mothers, boundaries are not walls to keep people out, budgeting as a single mom, Christian small groups for single moms, Christian speaker, Church Leaders, Dating Do's, dealing with life as single parent, developing your strengths, Divorce, divorce recovery, facing change, Gail Cawley Showalter, going to school as single mother, Growing spiritually, how do I make it through a divorce, identify your strengths, learning during solitude, learning from blind students, Lessons of Insight and Encouragement on the path of motherhood, Living Learning Loving, Single Mothers · Leave a comment

In 2016 I will share with women from my book, Living Learning Loving. What readers are saying – “I am just one of the lucky women who was told about this group. We love each other so much. There has been laughter and tears. We have all learned so much and are so very blessed! […]

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Set Personal Boundaries and Enjoy More Peace in Your Life and Relationships

August 16, 2015 · by · in boundaries are not walls to keep people out, Gail Cawley Showalter, lessons of insight and encouragement, Living Learning Loving, Setting Boundaries, the tough old bird with a soft spot for single moms · 1 Comment

Living with Boundaries Taken from book – “Emotions can block our ability to see reasonably.” You may need to establish boundaries in your life and not even know it. #gshowalter_livinglearningloving Gail raised three children as a single mother before she remarried. She has experienced the potholes, pests, and perils of being the single head-of-household. As […]