Personality Predicaments Solved with Enneagram


Understanding Yourself Brings Personal Freedom
A Highly Important Resource I Use as a Life Coach

Ages ago at a family reunion my cousin,  Katherine, tried to get me interested in the study of personalities. I thought if was fun but didn’t take it seriously. Fast forward twenty years and I was trained in the study of personalities by the Florence Littauer and her daughter, Marita. I spoke to groups, childcare workers, and single adults, virtually anyone who would listen to how personalities affect our lives. Fast-forward another twelve years to November 2011 when I took my first Enneagram workshop from Sister Lois Dideon at the Cenacle Retreat House in Houston.  I also bought books and listened to Suzanne Stabile’s CD’s. Later I took the Enneagram II workshop. I remain convinced that we are all completely unique, but there are similarities among us into which groups we do fall. Some of us fall hard, others gently.

You can make your life simpler by learning your personality type and that of your children. Parents must accept that their children are not all alike and will not react to life’s experiences in the same way they did. Our world today has changed drastically and our children have serious peer pressures and are exposed to so much more simply in the media than we were. A wise parent will need all the tools available to raise a child into a healthy adult in our present culture. There are several personality typing methods. The Enneagram is definitely the most spiritual and provides more in the way of what makes us tick.

The Enneagram teaches you why you do what you do, your motivation. You learn about the shadow lands or the ‘dark side’ of each of the nine types. Though it came from the East and was intended to be taught as an oral tradition, Americans have managed to produce numerous books on the subject. (see list below)

With the Enneagram you learn what to watch for when you are stressed and the direction you should take when you are relaxed and ‘in the flow.’ If you learn your child’s number you can head-off problems before they begin. You will know what motivates them. They will also benefit from the knowledge in school and with their friends.

As Sister Lois Dideon teaches, “If we can accept ourselves as we are, we have peace.” She says the Enneagram is a spiritual path of growth. The first step on the path is “The Awakening.” The rest of your life is “The Work.” This ‘work’ is called by George Gurdjieff, “The knowledge of our being.” You learn about your vices and virtues. We all have both. What yours are depends on your number or personality type.

Dr. Bennett explains the Enneagram as an energy system and energy moves us towards growth. This is how we discover the patterns in the flow of energy in ourselves and others, by learning our God-given personalities.

There are many approaches to learning about our true selves. It is one path to spiritual growth and development that I think is highly valuable for all parents. It’s worth the effort to learn.

“One knows truly when one understands what one knows, when one feels what one has understood, and when one has put into practice what one has understood and felt.”       – Ouspensky

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Personality Principles – Kathryne Robbins

An Enneagram Guide  by Eilis Bergin & Eddie Fitzgerald

The Big Book of Personality Tests  by Salvatore V. Didato, Ph.D.

The Enneagram  by Helen Palmer

Enneagram and Parenting by Elizabeth Wagele

Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

The Enneagram of Passions and Virtues: Finding the Way Home  by Sandra Maitri

Enneagram Transformations by Don Richard Riso

Personality Plus by Florence Littauer

Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer

Personaltiy Puzzle  by Florence & Marita Littauer

The Spiritual Dimensions of the Enneagram:  Nine Faces of the Soul  by Sandra Maitri

Wired That Way by Marita Littauer

The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso

Your Spiritual Personality by Marita Littauer

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I hold a degree from Lamar University in Speech and a Master’s from the University of Texas. I was an educator in regular and special education for twenty years, finishing my professional career as a Braille teacher. I am a Certified Professional Coach with Fowler International Academy.
I married Sam after raising three children as a single mother.
In 2007 I founded SMORE for Women. SMORE is a nonprofit whose goal is Single Moms, Overjoyed, Rejuvenated, & Empowered. My stories have been published in several Christian books and magazines. My book, Living Learning Loving, Insights and Encouragement on the Path of Motherhood is available for purchase on Amazon.

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