Tugs of Motherhood
The tug of motherhood is never-ending. It doesn’t matter how old your children are the heart tugs for them. I’m past the mothering years that involve day-to-day chores like laundry, shoe shopping, and cooking for kids. I’m past the constant attention to every child’s emotional needs for the day. I’m past the telling of bedtime stories and tucking-in. And yet . . . the tugs of motherhood remain.
When people ask us how our kids are I usually reply, “No one’s in the hospital today.” That is on a good day. We have six grown children and fifteen grandchildren. Someone needs something every day. It is usually as simple as advice or guidance, which we are happy to give. Happy, in fact, to be asked. It’s when they don’t ask for advice and should that times can get tense. My husband, Sam, and I have lived quite a while and we have gathered wisdom along the way. Some like to hear it. They respect what we have to offer. But I digress.
As a mother, I still feel the very same tug at my heartstrings for my children as I did when they were younger. In some ways, I feel that as a single mother my children were shortchanged. I still want to make up for it and that isn’t possible to do with “children” who are in their forties.
I know they have to live their lives and learn their lessons. Standing by and watching it sometimes hurts. I love each one dearly. On this particular Mother’s Day, I’d love to hug each one. I’d love to share just a bit of wisdom. I’d love to know with all my heart that they will be okay.
I raised three children as a single mother before I remarried. I have experienced the potholes, pests, and perils of being the single head-of-household. As an educator in regular and special education for twenty years I know a great deal about child development and how to handle kids. I am the founder of SMORE for Women, a nonprofit whose goal is Single Moms, Overjoyed, Rejuvenated, and Empowered. I’m also a Certified Professional Coach and my stories have been published in several Christian books and magazines. My book, Living Learning Loving is available on Amazonand Barnes and Noble online.