Our World Needs Young Women Who Walk the Walk
Names are changed
What happens when the boundary lines are blurred? As difficult as teaching youth about boundaries can be, teaching them how to determine what to do when the lines are not clear is nearly impossible. Impossible without moral priorities.
Instilling a strong sense of moral conscience and what’s right will give your child confidence.
When laws are broken the lawbreaker forfeits their boundary rights.
When my daughter, Lynn, was a junior in high school she faced a decision of conscience and her courage amazed me.
Early in the year she mentioned noticing suspicious interaction near her locker.
“A really strange boy has the locker next to mine,” she said one evening. “He makes me nervous.”
“Just stay clear of him,” I warned.
She continued to notice sneakiness in his behavior with others in the area.
Then one Friday she witnessed an obvious drug deal between him and another student. He had a sheet of LSD stickers and was slipping them into the locker near hers.
“What are you looking at ‘goody-two-shoes’?” he said as he swore at her.
Her quick response demonstrated her courage. She reported the incident immediately. She had to go through the school yearbook to identify the boys. The two boys were removed from campus by police officers.
In the last class period in the girls’ locker room friends told her, “That was Leeann’s cousin you told on. She’s coming in here to beat you up.”
While Lynn was in a bathroom stall Leann began to bang on all the stall doors. “I’m not leaving until you come out.” A friend of Lynn’s found a teacher who came and removed Leann. Lynn quickly gathered her things and left school. School administrators were alerted.
Lynn was in the drill team and would be performing at the football game during halftime that night. Since we didn’t know how serious the threats were, school administrators guarded her from the sidelines during halftime.
We were nervous and anxious. Lynn was frightened. So was I.
The following Monday all of her notes and textbooks disappeared from her locker. The school issued her a new set, but it would be next to impossible to replace all her notes, especially chemistry. The next day the new set of books vanished. She had to keep her textbooks and materials in the school office for the remainder of the school year.
Later the officials told the school administrators that they had been trying to get this group for some time. When they searched the homes of the boys involved, they found large quantities of drugs in the walls of their house.
Months later, the day after school was out for the year, all of Lynn’s books, notes and workbooks reappeared on our front lawn. They had been watching her all along.
Our lives and boundaries are often unclear. We sometimes have to follow our conscious.
Lynn (not her real name) is forty-two year old wife and mother, raising a daughter of her own. I couldn’t be more proud of her. She continues to live her life with a strong moral compass.
I raised three children as a single mother before I remarried. I have experienced the potholes, pests, and perils of being the single head-of-household. As an educator in regular and special education for twenty years I know a great deal about child development and how to handle kids. I am the founder of SMORE for Women, a nonprofit whose goal is Single Moms, Overjoyed, Rejuvenated, and Empowered. I’m also a Certified Professional Coach and my stories have been published in several Christian books and magazines. My book, Living Learning Loving is available on CreateSpace, Amazon, and Barnes and Noble online.