12 Steps for Single Moms

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12 Steps Adapted for Single Moms

Gail Cawley Showalter

  1. I admit that I do not have control over the difficult people in my life and I cannot manage all my responsibilities alone. My life has become crazy, out of control.
  2. I do believe that a Power greater than myself can and will bring clarity out of the chaos in my life.
  3. I will turn my stubborn will and my crazy life over to the care of God.
  4. I will make a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself and perform a complete autopsy on my previous relationship.
  5. I admit to God, to myself, and to another trusted person the exact nature of my wrongs in all past circumstances even if I still believe I did all the right things.
  6. I am entirely ready to have God remove all my defects of character, including those I am totally unaware of.
  7. I humbly ask God to remove my shortcomings as I attempt to forget the shortcomings of others.
  8. I will make a list of all persons I have hurt, offended, or mistreated. And will ask God to make me willing to make amends to them all.
  9. I will make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would hurt them or others worse than I have already.
  10. I will continue to take personal inventory and when I am wrong will promptly admit it, even in front of my children.
  11. I will seek through prayer and meditations to improve my conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of God’s divine will for me and the power to carry it out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, I will carry this message to others, and will practice these principles in all my affairs.

(c) 2013 Gail Cawley Showalter

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Gail holds a degree from Lamar University in Speech and a Master’s from the University of Texas. She was an educator in regular and special education for twenty years, finishing her professional career as a Braille teacher. She is a Certified Professional Coach with Fowler International Academy.

She married Sam after raising three children as a single mother.

In 2007 She founded SMORE for Women. SMORE is a nonprofit association whose goal is Single Moms, Overjoyed, Rejuvenated, & Empowered. Her stories have been published in several Christian books and magazines. Her book, Living Learning Loving, published in July 2015, is available for purchase on CreateSpace, Amazon, or Barnes & Noble online.


  1. Sylvia Moya · · Reply

    Great check off list for all of us to take inventory inventory of what needs to be dealt with, within ourselves.

    1. Yes, Sylvia. Good to hear from you. Happy New Year!

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