Raise Responsible Adults
Your goal when raising children is to get them to a point they no longer need you. We love our children so much it’s hard to imagine not hugging and loving on them as often as possible. By the very nature of motherhood we are attached to them. They cling to us and we cherish every moment of this amazing connection.
And yet, we must prepare them for adulthood. From their first steps to a driver’s license to a wedding day we are the one preparing them for the world.
- Life isn’t fair. Get used to it.
- Money comes from hard work.
- Being polite is always appropriate.
- Respect your elders just because they are older than you.
- The world doesn’t owe you a thing. Accept the fact.
- The laws of the land apply to everyone. That includes you.
- Take care of your own stuff-dirty dishes, clothes, sheets, school work.
- If you make a mess, clean it up.
- If you screw-up, apologize-and mean it.
- It’s your body, take care of it-bathe, brush teeth, trim nails, brush hair.
Training children to adulthood is a daily way of life. They may not respond as you’d like. Don’t give up. Remain consistent and eventually you will see the results-a full grown responsible adult.
I have three grown children and three grown step-children. They are certainly not children any longer and they all have children of their own. Do I have regrets? Sure I do. I also am happy to say they are doing well as are their children. It is the consistency that will make it or break it. So stick with it.
Gail raised three children as a single mother before she remarried. She has experienced the potholes, pests, and perils of being the single head-of-household. As an educator in regular and special education for twenty years she knows a great deal about child development and how to handle kids. She is the founder of SMORE for Women, a nonprofit whose goal is Single Moms, Overjoyed, Rejuvenated, and Empowered. She is a Certified Professional Coach and her stories have been published in several Christian books and magazines. Her book, Living Learning Loving is available on CreateSpace, Amazon, and Barnes and Noble online.